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5 Surprising Ways Introverts Can Find Their Tribe Away From Home
Fact: not everybody is in the market for a new friend. Most adults’ social circles are already established. They have lived in a similar geographical place most of their life, known the same people for years, and have no reason to seek out more. There are just no vacancies there.
For the rest of us, that fact is painfully clear. We have our reasons for being lone wolves. Maybe we’re studying abroad. Maybe we moved to another state for a job. Perhaps we had too many exes in one city for our peace of mind, so we purged our lives…Take your pick.
The curse of the daring introvert
We’re in the same boat one way or the other. So we just need to find each other, right? Seems like it should be pretty simple. Alas, it is not. Why is making friends as an adult like pulling teeth — especially as an introvert? The short answer is that we don’t want to talk to each other, either. I’ll explain.
First of all, we introverts do not enjoy talking to new people. The surface-level stuff doesn’t give us what we need out of life. We crave deep connections via deep conversation, which ironically, is not something people tend to do with acquaintances. That…
