How a Meditation Habit Can Cure Your FOMO

It’s all to do with the power of observance.

Kim G.

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“Comparison is the thief of joy” — Theodore Roosevelt

FOMO (fear of missing out) has become a common emotional issue as our connectivity through technology has increased. We see photos of our friends or family doing things we couldn’t attend, and we get a feeling of dread. Or it happens in foresight: we hear about an event and can’t stand the thought of not being a part of things. We have to go.

Is it an issue of wanting to stay “relevant” within our community? To feel like we aren’t forgotten? Like we need a reminder that people still care about us? Or is it more about the unknown, and simply needing to be in on the mystery of what that experience could be like? OR maybe it’s a fear of not making that memory — or not being a part of other people’s memories that we care about.

Comparison, the thief that it is

Maybe it’s all of the above, and then some. Cathy Sullivan-Windt, Ph.D, said that

“with FOMO, one’s gaze is set on what others are doing, rather than being fully present where one currently is.”

If you haven’t felt this fear, you’re one of the rare few. But where does the fear of missing out actually stem from? I’d argue that comparison plays a big part. The slippery, dangerous slope that it is. Comparing our lives to others’ is like asking to be miserable. And yet, we do it anyway. Every day. And we wonder why we can’t be happy. Or maybe our happiness is conditional, and it depends on us being a part of everything — or on us shutting ourselves off of social media altogether.

That way, we can’t compare at all. We suddenly go from fully connected to completely disconnected from the world. It’s not a bad thing every now and then, and it’s a fine choice to make for yourself…but it’s a temporary fix. It’s not a solution.

“At the core of FOMO is often a phenomenon called social comparison,” Kate Winick wrote in Psycom article, “How to Turn FOMO into JOMO”. This phenomenon is something hardwired into every human, unfortunately. We naturally hold ourselves up to those around us — social media has just made it a lot easier to…

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Kim G.

UK Copywriter. ATL Screenwriter. Everywhere content writer. Hatha Yoga teacher.