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You won’t want to hear this, but the truth is that you need to cut yourself off.
This is saying something coming from me. The fact that I’ve finally accepted this truth is a big deal, seeing as how I’m the queen of staying friends with my exes, and the biggest opposition to going ‘cold turkey’ that there is.
Nevertheless, I’ve finally accepted it. Sometimes it needs to be done.
And if you’re going through a breakup, or simply stuck in a toxic relationship whose time has run its course, you need to accept it too.
With love there are often unpleasant pills we have to swallow. If we don’t, we usually doom ourselves to waste precious time doing this weird, unhealthy dance with our off again, on again person. It’s bad for both of you.
You go back and forth over and over again because you’re both afraid to let go and move on. It’s human, and it’s understandable. But what is not understandable is when you are putting that fear in front of your self-worth and self-love. That’s when you’ve started to lose yourself for someone else, and that’s not healthy, nor is it love.
It’s wrong for so many reasons, and the sad truth is that your person probably can sense you don’t value yourself, which will inherently cause them to value you less as well. Their respect…
